Bit of a conundrum. It depends how perfect you want the motor to be. In an ideal world the conrods should match, weight for weight, but also the distribution of the mass should also be the same. In other words, the weight of each assembled end should also match. In practice we assume big end shells, bolts washers and nuts all match, and just compare the bare rods with small end bushes fitted. Worth swapping over these the parts if there is any noticeable individual weight difference. Further perfection costs more, which is fine with money no object, but these old machines were never super smooth to start with, the basic design means they will only be smooth in a particular speed range. This is the domain of the professional engine tuner, so the bucks will start to mount up.
Big Journal Rods are marked 67 1160 followed by a forging number, eg R4Z1R which differs depending on the manufacture source of the rod. The rods should match size wise, and appear almost identical, so dimension differences noted by eye are unexpected....are they all big journal rods?
Sourcing a closer matched rod is probably the cheapest option, followed by matching your nearest existing rods. Converting timing side to drive side rod by drilling the bleed hole can be done. There is debate as to whether the hole is necessary or effective, so take your choice here. Removing the forging flash and polishing the heavier rod is a good place to start, but get expert on the spot advice as to further lightening. 10 grams difference may be acceptable for the bike's intended use. Many folks have built motors which despite every known machining and assembly perfection turn out to be just as rough runners as backyard lash ups.
Assure yourself that the crank sludge trap has been removed entirely and is super clean after its trip to the grinders.
Swarfy.